So as the law stands now is that it is your choice as a woman on whether or not you decide to keep your baby or have an abortion. We are a very Your Choice society. Which as a whole isn't a bad thing. I think as human beings we have the right to make decisions that impact our own lives. But what a lot of people don't seem to consider when abortion is in the forefront of their mind is, it isn't your own life that you are making a decision for. The decision is directly impacting another human life other than your own.
So I am going to make a few points on why I don't agree with abortion. And please let me point out, I am not condemning those who disagree with me. It is your own right as a human being to believe in whatever you want. But I hope that maybe through my words it will shed light on aspects of the situation that you may not have seen before. You may not care and maybe you do. But as a follower of Christ I have to stand up for what I believe is right vs. wrong in not only my eyes for my personal beliefs but for what my savior says and my faith.
- The first reason that I do not believe in abortion is probably the most important. Abortion is MURDER. When we as human's physically can't see something or touch and feel it, we like to believe that it isn't real. Just because you can't see the baby or hold that baby, it is very real. Within 5 weeks of conception that baby's heart start's to beat. Once that heart begins to beat it is a living organism. No it can't think for itself or provide for itself, but neither can a newborn. So what is the difference between having an abortion and pulling the trigger and murdering a 1 hour old baby? There isn't one. You can not argue that the baby isn't living by saying it isn't even a boy or girl. Just because you can't determine the sex yet doesn't mean that it isn't a boy or a girl yet. That it isn't developing in to one or the other as you and I speak. And whether you know if it is a boy or girl or not it HAS A FREAKING HEARTBEAT!!!!! It is breathing in your stomach. Living in your stomach. So why is it not illegal to kill that human but it is illegal to kill a human being that you can see? Its the same thing.
- A lot of women say their defense of why they are having an abortion ranges between a couple of different excuses. And I say excuses because that is what they are. They are trying to make what they are doing right not only in other peoples minds but their own. When you have to defend your reasoning behind your decisions most of the time its because your decision isn't the right one or is flawed and you know it but your trying to justify it in your mind.
- I'm too young to be a mother
- Here is what I have to say. If you are too young to be a mother then you shouldn't be having sex to begin with. Here is a prime example of why so many young adults feel entitled. They make whatever decisions they want but don't want to face the consequences that come along with those decisions. And we as an older generation are just as much to blame because we let them get a way with it. We don't hold them accountable.
- I'm not ready to be a mother
- Adoption. Adoption. Adoption. So some women may even be married or older and they are using protection and on birth control because they aren't ready to be a mom or they don't want kids. But some times, things happen. If you get pregnant and you aren't ready then put the baby up for adoption. There are so many women out there that want a baby and to be a mom that CAN'T have kids. You might not be ready for this baby but someone else is. Don't punish this baby and someone else by being selfish and aborting something so precious.
- So there is one more reason that women use excuses to have an abortion. But this is a heavy one so I made it a main topic one so that I could put a few points underneath it. Rape. For a four letter word it holds a very heavy meaning. First I want to say that my heart goes out to women who suffer from rape. I myself have been a victim of rape. Which is a completely different post. So I understand the wanting to forget that moment and the feeling of wanting to wash yourself free of all the memories and things that remind you of it. So I can't image finding out that you are pregnant from that experience. And before I make this next point, let me make this one point very clear, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. Victims of rape are just that. Victims. I could honestly make a whole post on just that and I might eventually. BUT unfortunately that baby isn't to blame either. And having an abortion, which again is a synonym for murder, is killing that innocent life. It takes a very strong and mature woman to put another before herself. And unfortunately the right thing to do in that situation is also the hardest decision you will ever have to make. But think about the gift you can give someone. The gift you can give that baby. That baby doesn't have to know how it came into this world. And by giving it up, once it is adopted you don't have to ever remember that night. You won't have that constant reminder. Which is one of the biggest reasons a woman who was raped uses to justify abortion. They don't want to remember. So deal with it for 9 months and then do what you need to do to heal. But again don't punish the baby when it isn't their fault.
I have never had an abortion. But I have had 2 close friends who have had one. I won't use names but I will tell you their situations.
- One of my friends was in high school and got pregnant by a boy that she was dating. Her parents were very strong Christians and she knew that they would be disappointed in her. She was young and scared. So her and her boyfriend and his mother took her to get an abortion. We met in college and she still regretted the decision that she made. She had started thinking what if I can never get pregnant again? What if that was my one and only chance to be a mom? Then she started thinking of the inevitable. What would that baby have turned out to be. Would it have been a girl? Or a boy? What would they have looked like or been like? Those thoughts will forever haunt her. She made a decision that she thought at the time was stopping her from ruining her life. But what happened instead is that she will be filled with regret for the rest of her life.
- My other friend was older and out of college and in a serious relationship with someone when she got pregnant. They were serious but hadn't been dating very long when she found out. They both were not at a point in their lives where they were ready for a baby due to different reasons on both sides. So she got an abortion. To this day it breaks her heart. She wishes that she could take it back. She asks herself the exact same questions my other friend did. Its all the what ifs. She said that she will forever regret that decision and she will never be able to forgive herself.
Another reason that I am against abortion is because had abortion been legal in Romania when I was born I never would have been born. I am sure there were ways around it but it probably cost a lot of money and my family was very very poor. My birth mom was a teenager when she had me and already had another 1 and 1/2 year old son, my half brother. The men in her life never stuck around for the raising of the children. So I thank the Lord everyday that she considered adoption because my life would have been completely different had she not. I used to hate my mom for what she did when I was younger. Now that I am older I have so much respect for a woman I have never met. She did something that took such strength and courage and she wasn't thinking of herself, she was thinking of me and my future.
Whew. That was a lot for one post. I know it is a lot to take in. It took a lot to write. I honestly spent 3 days writing this post because I wanted to make sure that I wrote it in complete honesty but also with compassion.
If you or someone you know is struggling with teenage pregnancy and trying to decide whether to get an abortion or not. Please reach out to me. I would love to talk to them. Let them know they have other options. That they aren't alone. I know what it is like to be a pregnant teen. I did not have an abortion I had a miscarriage around 6 and 1/2 weeks but the feeling of being alone and scared to go to school. I get it. You can send me something anonymously.
I also want to reach out to anyone who has been or knows someone who has been raped. I am also here for you. Again you can remain anonymous just go to my contact form and you can send me whatever. You aren't alone and you will all be in my thoughts and prayers. I want to help. You just have to ask.
Well I think that is all for tonight. I am exhausted. Goodnight Bloggers.
- Erin Nicole
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